Elle has been in my life for just two years now, but it seems like she has treated me as if I matter as much as anyone she's known. This might reflect something on me, but I really believe that it shows more about the tremendous heart Elle possesses and how deeply she can care for a person. I never understood why that heart was open to X factor and how her depth of caring could go so far for him. However, there were many, many times that he made her happy and was there for her. As a friend, that was all I could want. I saw her struggle and how he was not giving her what she needed, but wanted her to be happy, whatever way that could happen.
The stuff Elle put up with was epic. I know from my relationships that when a man does not fight for a woman and defend her that there is something deficient in the relationship. Yet, as I said above, I wanted my dear friend to be happy. When a man does not have the strength of character to stay through tough times then he's not much of a man at all. When a man DELIBERATELY toys with a woman's heart by taking her ring shopping with no intention to actually buy a ring, then he might just not be a good person.
Elle deserves more than this. She deserves love and support, like we all do. When she decided to stay with X factor, I did my best to support the decision even though I thought it wasn't the best thing for Elle. Now that she is moving on, I am so excited about the possibility of this great person finding someone who values her. I know how much Elle struggled with doing what she did last week. But I also know that this was the manifestation of her real feelings. I've found in life that when one follows a real feeling that things will work out. It might not work out the way we plan, but it will work out the right way...