I went from hearing from them sporadically in a friendly way to now being semi-pursued.
I have no idea.
First up is Sam. I took him to a client event in May when X factor and I had parted ways -- we had a good time, he had a girlfriend and it was just friendly fun. He is always a great date. (there's an old blog post on this one)
He asked me out last week and we had drinks downtown on Monday night. He paid and was lovely as usual but when he invited me back to his place I knew this was a litttttle more than friendly. (PS hallelujah for guys who buy ladies drinks!)
Our next hangout is planned for wine on his roof. He just moved into this incredible building downtown and lives on the top floor. (How can I keep this PG?)
He's great, smart, good job, funny, we get along perfectly EXCEPT he is my height and there's one thing missing that I can't put my finger on... He is awesome and I wish we had that "it factor" -- I was dating him quite frequently before I met X and then dropped him in the dust completely. (Sam also knows why I dropped him...yay for honesty?)
Guy number 2 was also in phase 1 of tinder -- Joey.
He's 6'4, very political, amazing chef, sweet guy, funny, smart, tall, tall, oh and tall.
He was promising until I found out he is very religious in a strange off-shoot of Christianity and I knew I'd not be down to covert/raise my kids that way sooooo why get attached?
We'd been texting prior to a few of my big political work events recently and he came up to meet up for a midnight dinner on my birthday last weekend.
My friends thought I'd picked up some dude from the street and invited him to dinner. LOL -- WHAT?
Joey and I went on two dates back in the day, both were great.
Except our kiss on date 2, not the greatest....Actually it was terrible.
Thennnnn I met X factor and cut him off too. He also kept in light touch, we snapchat, occasionally text, etc.
Tinder has become a great way to make new guy friends hahaha (I'm sure they'd be thrilled to know they are in my big club of friend zoned dudes, the best guy in that group being G -- so shoutout to you for being the best tinder friend - I know you're reading this)
Anyways -- Joey texted me Saturday commenting how stunningly gorgeous I am. Uhhhh, we are friends? That is a little odd/out of left field but flattering nonetheless. (I also know he isn't trying to bang me because his religion is not down with sleazy boy behavior, he likely wants to date me)
He offered to help me move because he is genuinely THAT nice of a guy. I can barely get my best guy friends to help me do that level of bitch work, so props to Joey (and G who also offered).
Sadly though - I am not interested romantically in Sam or Joey. I don't mind hanging out with them on occasion but I don't want to lead them on and hurt their feelings because they are GENUINELY nice guys which as ALL THE LADIES KNOW IS SO RARE.
Cris gets back to town soon, I'll await a text from him to set-up a plan. However -- if he doesn't execute a DINNER date next, he's gonna get cut. We've done drinks twice, let's step this ish UP. You're 35, cmon bro - lets E X E C U T E!
PS I am still off of all dating apps -- & I don't miss it whatsoever. SO REFRESHING.