Think about Blake Shelton. When he divorced Miranda Lambert and fell for Gwen Stefani, the world was thrilled. Gwen is way hotter than Miranda even though she's much older. He totally upgraded. (PS Gwen is my celeb crush so I am a bit biased)
The post where Antonio told me to "wear it better" and I referenced his ex gf being ugly af really got me thinking.
I'm sure she's a nice girl, likely someone I'd be friends with but when you see someone as competition - you instantly have to cut them down based on the only thing you can tell about them, how they look/dress.
XF asked me this weekend if I think I am the prettiest out of my friends. Uhhhh NO, duh. But I also think I view my friends in a way others might not - I think they're all so gorgeous and that's because I know and love them. More proof, looks are enhanced with personality. XF thinks I am the prettiest because the guy is in love with me = enhanced view of me compared the the rest of the world.
I look at my ex boyfriends wives. Bobby's is BUTT ASS UGLY - literally no redeeming qualities but he's super in love and happy with her sooooo she's obviously gotta have a great personality.
Liam's lady used to be hot in her cheerleading days then turned quite frumpy/looks 45. But hey, here is tying the knot in a few days. (Oh joy)
Let's take the focus off the ladies for a second. (Girls are judged way harder than guys, super unfair)
If Antonio were to size up XF and compare himself - he'd surely laugh. XF isn't in shape, he is bald (but does bald well), and is hairy. (He is quite a bit taller than Antonio though)
Then guys immediately size up careers (girls don't do this, we only care about looks).
Antonio is an attorney. XF is an MBA, MD.
What does it take to make a guy feel insecure about another guy?
For girls, it's looks. If your ex boyfriend dates someone hotter than you after, you 100% feel like shit. If he dates someone uglier, you feel like you won at life. (story of my life as I am single, writing this post) ;)
My question is - WHY DO WE THINK LIKE THIS?? It's so unhealthy, my head is spinning. I am perfectly guilty of it - every time I see a photo of an ex with some ugly girl I instantly group chat it to my friends (that is, if they haven't already sent it to me first).
I am trying to become a spin instructor and I am stressing out x 1000 about my body. I know the more visibly fit you are, the more people strive to be like you and want to take your class. I know I will be motivating and good at yelling at people to push themselves BUT if I don't look the part, I feel like I will fail.
We place such a value on appearances - wouldn't it be amazing if we focused on personality/talent way before appearance?
Random thoughts of the day.
I am going to work on not being so judgmental (even though that judgment is what gives me my edge).
Wish me luck!