Bobby said it's a once in a lifetime thing and that people who marry their first love are lucky and get to keep that feeling/deeper bond but for the rest of us, it's pretty impossible to find again which is why falling in love with me felt so different than falling in love with Jello.
I didn't want to believe that but after talking to a friend from Cairo this weekend, I think Bobby was right.
My friend dated this girl when I lived in Egypt and he was CRAZY over her. They were attached at the hip and seriously obsessed. I definitely expected them to get married.
Well, they didn't.
He was talking about his new girlfriend and how it's a very simple love and they have zero drama where as things with his ex, were always dramatic/insane.
The drama definitely keeps things fun in a LTR but when you have a job, kids, etc -- do you really want your relationship to be dramatic on top of all of that?
XF represents the mature love. There's a reason I couldn't give him up for so long and that's because he shows his love in a mature way vs the crazy way. Sad part is, I'd value him more if I felt that crazy love connection.
So I need to change how I think. Crazy love is overrated and we should all be looking for mature love.
The kind thats based on mutual respect, goals, interests/lifestyle, admiration, and kindness.
Cheers to focusing on the mature side of life vs the crazy.
But can we keep the crazy sex with the mature love? Pretty please??