I swear by this. It helped me understand XF on a completely different level. He is ALL Acts of Service and I am ALLL about the words & PDA. I think when you start dating someone, the first thing you should do once it's official is make your partner take the quiz. It will help you be a better bf/gf to them because you'll understand their values and how they want to receive love. 12 is the highest score for each category.
Elle's Scores
10 Words of Affirmation - "Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important— hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up."
8 Physical Touch - "Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love to you."
7 Quality Time
3 Receiving Gifts
2 Acts of Service
That being said, you can see I reallllly like words. (Shocker, considering I author a blog)
Yesterday I was cleaning out the notes on my iphone and ran across a stream of saved texts from my Persian ex boytoy, Babak. We dated (rebounded) after Liam for about a year and a half and broke up when he refused to move out of his parents house & his mom decided she hated me for trying to steal him from her...His mom = a pyscho.
Moms + sons = a fucking disaster these days.
They baby their sons to the point of NO return and then the future wives have to do EVERYTHING like mom did or we are looked down upon. It is SUCH bullshit. Oh and both B and his older brother STILL live at home...32 & 36....KILL ME. Babak's new girlfriend has braces so I am guessing she's not pushing for him to move out, she's just thankful she has a boyfriend. (he was bomb in bed, only real perk)
Back to the texts. Below are some of the corniest things EVER. I hope you LOL as hard as I did reading them...mind you, he spent months in Paris for work so we texted ALOT.
The following is embarrasing as F. Let it be known...
My favoritttte Persian girl why are you soooo sweet, funny and beautiful I can't get enoughhhh
Thanks for those baby....you look stunning sooo beautiful 😘
Awwww thanks baby I missed you lots too :) don't think I've missed anymore more after only seeing them two times 😊😊😊😊😘😘😘😘
Thanks for letting me come over - you were the highlight of my day :)
Laying next to you and talking about random things is my new favorite hobby
I'm neeeedy for you lol
Dohhhh meet a perfect girl then gotta leave
Awww merci....imma be so happy to see you again :))
omgggggg you look fucking amazing in that red outfit
super sweet, gorgeous, understanding, tries to make me happy, easy to talk to, and sexy as hell
hard not to think about you 😊
awww you're too adorable elle joon
sooo glad i met ya
you're definitelyyyyyy my favorite
im not gonna lie it's kinnnnnnda nice knowing some pretty persian princess cares about you
keeps me warrrm knowing that when you're not next to me physically 😘
you're my favorite girl
you already knew that
uhh huhhh #1 for meee
the winnnnner is Elle joooon
why are you so perfect
im loving your sweetness to me 😊
you're special ❤
Awww thanks I feel the same :) I feel comfortable and happy when I'm with you
Thanks for dessert and for being you 😍
Awwww baby you're the cutest
I'm your boyyyyyyyfriend you can talk to me about anything :)
That looks amazing baby great job!!!!😍
Proud of my girlfriennnnd \(-.-)/
Sometimes I'd just think about you and would smile ☺shhhhh don't tell
A lottttt :) I always have a good time with youuuu and I don't get much Elle jooooon time so I miss you a lot
Alright azizammmmm sweet dreams 😘😘missss holding you already how lammmme ;)
Cuddling, going out to eatttt, sitting in the cold scratching off a lottery ticket, movies, dancing.....I like it alllll with you 😘
You're my sweetheartttt😘
Awww ❤ you're special
Normally when I say that it is because you said something goofy but this time I mean it 😘
Yuppp you're my special princess 😘
Man ashegetam Elle joon ☺
Goodnight my love 😘😘😘😘I miss you
I think you're my favorite girl in the worldddd :)
I haven't liked a girl as much as I like you lalalalalala
You're different - in a good way 😘
Sweet dreams my love
Honey I'm homeeee - I love you toooo ❤
Awwww thanks babe they're about to winnnnn fingers crossed! I love youuuu Elle joon ❤❤❤sweet dreams baby
I love you 😘
Goodnight princess have a goodnight ❤😘I loveeeee you
I.Love.You.Beautiful❤
Sweeeetest dreams for my princess ❤😘
I know I understand :)))) I just don't like seeing you sad so I am tryin to put a happy girl smile on that pretty face
Thanks for being the bestttt girlfriend ever ❤😘
Alottttt alotttttt you don't even know :))) miss goofing around and talking with you, teasing you with jokes, kissssing, laying down and cuddling so so much :)))
Goodnight babbbbby I love you 😘😘
Me too :) no matter what we do I always have fun doing it with you 😘
I always enjoy spending time with my girrrrrl
Hiiiiiiiii😘😘happy thanksgiving azizammmmm I'm most thankful we met each other this year 😚we can chat later when you're free!!"
LOL ready to vomit yet?
Man, I do miss guys saying 50% of that. Nowadays, it's tough to find a guy who wants stick around past date 4 let alone text corny/adorable/gag worthy things.
Have I lost my power to make a man weak in the knees?
Send help!
xo xo,
Elle