You ready for this shit?
You better fucking try it.
Step 1: If you have a tinder, delete it and start over.
Step 2: With your clean slate - pick some stellar photos & write just one sentence to describe yourself. Leave the men wondering. Don't give them all the info they need to know, they should ASK. Often we write a paragraph stating who we are then a toad judges us based on this before taking the time to actually talk to us. Give them NADA. This also helps give toads a chance to ask questions. If you wrote it all on your profile, what's left to ask?
Step 3: Ten swipes a day.
By this I mean, ten YES swipes. COUNT THEM. You'll likely get 4-5 matches from your ten swipes (if you're pretty) otherwise count on 1-3.
Step 4: Wait 24 hours to give these toads a chance to send a message. If a guy doesn't message within the first 24 hours, he likely never will. I don't have an exact stat on this but I am a professional tinderella so just take my damn word on it.
Step 5: Only maintain 4 conversations at a time. Not 5, not 6, FOUR.
"Why 4 Elle?"
Four conversations allows you to actually engage with each toad without getting overwhelmed and bored. You need to give a little to get a little so try and put your best tinder foot forward with each of these guys. You may quickly discover nothing in common and you let the conversation die but at least you actually tried vs giving the bare minimum and being upset when a guy has no desire to execute asking you out. Ladies, take some responsibility here.
Often I find that I have so many conversations at once that I can't really keep it all straight, I get exhausted, and I lose interest because I never hung around long enough to find out something noteworthy about Mr.Toad. SO FOUR is the magic number. Don't fuck with it, just do it.
Step 6: Once you decide who you want to meet in person, set up your dates and get back to your 10 swipes.
Step 7: Every week go through your matches and un match toads who never sent a message. Keep your tinder game clean and organized.
MORAL OF THIS RECIPE IS...
You are probably strategic in most aspects of your life and why not apply the same concepts to dating?
Don't sit in your bed bored, swiping for hours, racking up hundreds of matches. That is overwhelming and honestly it's a waste of matches. Don't engage in 10 conversations at a time because I PROMISE you'll lose interest and likely never even meet half of them.
You never know who you're going to "click" with so take it slow, be strategic and give people chances.
I challenge alllllllllll the singles to give this a try.
So far, its working quite well for me. All four of my conversations are great, 2 have asked for dates and I have a feeling the other 2 will soon... Four dates is manageable, 15 isn't.
Stay the course my friends, stay the course.