But I am not referring to myself.
Ah, Jake. Such a nice guy. Lots of fun to spend time with, great distraction, good person.
But he is the cheapest guy I have ever met, ever.
He seems to have a pretty good job and what not so it perplexes me as to why he is so cheap but I guess everyone has their reasons?
However, if you can't afford to date you probablyyyyyy shouldn't?
We have went on four dates in total. Like actual go to a restaurant kind of thing.
We can deduct one because it was a group of like 8 of us and maybe it's awkward for him to pay in a big group setting.
Date 1 - sushi. He paid, I didn't offer - you invited me, no chance I am offering to split.
Date 2 - After hanging out about 13490x he invited me to grab dinner and go ride the ferris wheel at this outdoor park thing in the city. I said sure. Before he hangs up he says....
"Don't think I am taking you for a steak dinner or anything, okay?"
I laugh awkwardly....ummmm, okay. I don't like steak so that is fine.
We go to a mexican spot that is very reasonably priced. I decide I am not really that hungry after all and I don't see the point in eating when I'm not so I'll pass on food. I apologize for being a rude date who isn't eating or drinking for that matter. He replies, "less bill for me, its awesome!"
EW. Who says that?!
He did pay for parking in the garage and riding the ferris wheel....I however didn't offer to help with either because technically this was our 2nd real date anddddd I didn't even eat.
Date 3 - double date on a Sunday with his roommate and his girlfriend. I ordered 2 glasses of $7 wine. As did he. Bill comes, I pull out cash and he doesn't stop me.
Worst part - this dude isn't my boyfriend, so I guess because he's not and I've been very upfront that a boyfriend is the last thing I want -- he isn't offering or trying as hard? IDK. But anyways, his roommate who is legit dating this girl --- SPLITS THE BILL WITH HER. To her this must be normal because she didn't seem shocked or appalled whatsoever.
I've never had a cheap boyfriend before I really don't know how people deal with this. I date mostly middle eastern/mediterranean so maybe this is cultural?
Someone PLEASE explain. This seems so off base to me. Especially considering Jake told me straight up that he want's to be my "boyfriend."