Part of my news years resolution list includes:
saying whatever I want to whomever I think needs to hear it.
I won't do this whenever I want, I think timing is key -- so don't go assuming I am turning into a mega bitch and yelling at people at my leisure.
First bridge I decided to mend after Bobby was HS X, who I guesss deserves a name besides HS X - Meet Ryan.
Like I've said before, I spent close to five years with Ryan. It was never 100% after he cheated on me but we still hooked up and kept in very close contact for a long, long time. He lived down the street from me in high school so when we were both in college and home for breaks he'd pretty much live at my house. My dad was living in California and I had this giant house to myself essentially. When it was time to move to DC my senior year of college, Ryan borrowed Bobby's truck and came to Ohio (eight hour drive) and packed up ALL of my belongings then drove them & me home. He really had his moments of being amazing and he was the most handy/DIY guy ever. He fixed everything for me, always made sure my car had gas, was cleaned, etc.
So I saw him at that peppermint patty Christmas Party and he told me all about his engagement which I could give zero fucks about. Then I got way too drunk and you all know the rest... Well I asked him for some advice via email a few days later for a business idea I have. It involves an area in which he has experience and I have none. So we talked on the phone, sent a few emails and things really felt fine/normal. I decided yesterday that I wanted to be friends again. We started out that way back in my sophomore year of high school, we have both found our "people", and there probably is no better time to be friends.
So I texted, "Hey I have a random question - no rush, let me know a good time to call."
"Crazy day, I'll call when I leave work."
So he calls and I start with, "You are allowed to say no, I won't be upset but 2016 is going to be the best year of my life and I am not holding back SO will you be my friend again?"
I was actually pretty nervous to ask because we have had such a complicated past.
We spend the next hour talking about a variety of subjects and end on a very good note. It felt amazing to know that if I ever need advice or have a question, I can call him and he can do the same. It also feels like a point of personal growth to be able to call Ryan a friend. EVERYONE who knows us, knows how much drama we both had when together and when apart so this is pretty huge.
My next bridge is occurring in 30 minutes.
I am meeting Jake at a coffeeshop for 1.5 hours to catch up, get some work done and just clear the air. I haven't seen him since the alumni event I took him as my date to and we live down the street now. I don't really have a good reason for clearing the air on this one but I also don't see any harm in it. Likely it'll be a really interesting/disastrous story to share with you all.
ta ta for now,