I walk into my apartment yesterday after my workout and who do I see sitting at my kitchen counter?
The dreadful J.
I walk in, Arash say's "Hey Elle!" I say, "Hey guys, it smells good in here!" X Factor was making us lunch so I set my things down to come take a look at the food. I said hello, J has yet to say anything, I am trying to be Switzerland, she's the one who is now back in the scene, she should be making the effort to talk to me, afterall - this is MY home that I share with her boyfriend. Roommate/BFF > GF. Doesn't she know?
She says nothing. They eat their lunch, we start eating ours and within ten minutes they're out. Arash says, "hey, we'll see you guys later!" - X & I reply, "okay, cya!" and that is all.
No drama but definitely tension.
Later in the evening during our dinner party, J comes up again. I say she once again didn't bother to say hello to me and that I am not going out of my way. She will get exactly what she gives me in return.
This makes Arash upset, X factor yells at me to "be the bigger person" and tells me I need to apologize to Arash.
This might make me a brat but I'm sorry if I am NOT looking forward to having a girl who is a complete bitch back in my living space on a regular basis. She NEVER bothers to do the right thing like say hi to people or be genuinely a decent human so HOW am I the bad guy now?
Good for you Arash for taking her back -- that is your prerogative. I don't have to be friends with her or accept your decision. I can make myself scarce and thats that. Ideally, it'd be great to be able to be friends with whomever he dates or at least be able to tolerate them/hold a conversation. But hey, NOT my decision. Clearly.
I have zero intent to apologize. I cut shitty people out of my life on a regular basis and there is no plan to open the floodgates and let them seep in back in, in 2016. & I will tell Arash this, as politely as possible tonight when he mentions it again.
Now, it's time to focus on some new after work hobbies....
Any good ideas?