I apologize in advance that I am still behind on filling you in with Jake & Rams, I'll get there - eventually.
After a fantastic gala Wednesday with Antonio it's basically been crickets since.
We briefly texted Thursday, initiated by me.
Friday he texted: "Hey! Happy Friday! I'm not going to be able to make it out tonight. Thank you for the invite though. Have fun!"
My reply: "No prob, have fun"
This is what happens when you break your own damn rules by inviting a toad to two events in one week. Thank you universe for reminding me there are rules in this bullshit, dating game and they need to be followed.
I sent him a few snapchats which led to a few minimal snap text conversations. The only notable one being that he worked all weekend and was headed to a birthday brunch for a friend on Sunday.
So I get that I am extremely busy and so is he. I'm busy with my social calendar and he's busy being a lawyer.
However - that didn't stop him before from making plans and sticking to them AND confirming them (typically twice). I guess he said a lot of girls flake at the last minute so he gets weary?
I get that someone might be busy with work but a text message is the easiest fucking thing to send. So there is zero excuse to me for this drop off as it has.
I didn't bring up exclusivity, I haven't said I'm trying to find a boyfriend, I have played it so damn cool. I KNOW I didn't do anything stupid/clingy.
Also, we have been hanging out since November 14th. You'd think the frequency at which we talk wound increase....definitely has done the exact opposite.
So there are three theories amongst my friends and I as to WTF is going on here.
1. He's just not that into me anymore. He chased, he caught, he moved on.
2. Because he shows every sign when we are together that he's REALLY into me (hello changing my car tire at 11pm), he sees this progressing into a relationship and he's not really ready for that or looking for that so he's hitting the brakes in the least mature way possible. But he also doesn't wanna come out and just say that because then I will likely just walk away completely and there goes all that good sex.
3. This my friends theory on really pretty girls and average guys...
"I mean yes he's successful and cute but you're stunning and he's so lucky. I think he's freaking out. You know what it feels like when you jump into a really cold pool? I think that's what dudes experience. They panic, feel undeserving, then rationalize themselves into paralysis or run away. Some of my most beautiful girlfriends are the ones that have the most confusing dating experiences."
As sweet as theory #3 is, I'm not too sure that I fall into that category. I do think he's used to dating girls who are a lot less social than me/are a bit more vanilla.... I know I am ALOT to keep up with. That's kinda why I loved XF so much, he kept up and loved me for the chaos that I am.
But anyways. Game plan now is - radio silence. No snapchats, no snapchat stories, no texts. If he wants to see me/talk to me, he will. If he doesn't? G is grabbing my jewelry from his place on Thursday and this fella can officially lose my fucking number.
I HATE inconsistency.
You might be awesome when we are together but I am not our events coordinator. I am not going to chase you. You were ontop of shit and that's why I liked you but now that that has tapered off? I'm NOT impressed.
And honestly? Good fucking luck on boring tinder date after boring tinder date. This city is jam packed with basic bitches who will put you to sleep. I bet they also suck in bed. I am many things but boring and bad in bed are not on the list. Wanna keep those options open? Be my guest. You might find someone shorter & hotter but in terms of full package, I think you're gonna be swiping for awhile Bruce.
Being busy isn't an excuse ladies. Don't buy it from anyone. You make time for the things you value.
Let's wait and see where this one goes....
til then it's crickets from me.
Middle finger in the air,